We are not your pet dog to be trained into a behavior suitable to you. When you started dating you always did what you could to make yourself attractive for him. Again more interested in lust than love. That is shallow and disrespectful.
And by the way I agree with taking care of yourself. I run everyday and keep myself up very well. But there will always be someone more attractive than me. Same goes for just about everyone else. Does that make someone less of a person? Does that make them less worthy of love? It just makes you a bad boyfriend or husband.
After hours of searching and reading; this article is the best! Please, let me know your thoughts on my situation: My previous girlfriend, I had 0 doubts we were destined to be. We met as patients in the hospital, and she was still is among the hottest few girls on the planet.
A perfect 10, 11 even, by any standard. We moved in together not long after we met. We were both totally on cloud nine. It lasted until I had to travel for work for a cpl months, and she meets someone else.. While we were together, I felt like king of the world. Until I figured out to focus on my self more. Although, our connection is like none other! Two peas in a pod we are. My current gf, not as much. Could that evolve into unhappiness later? One of my coworkers has been married one of both realms for 25 years!
But he does frequent bikini baristas. Thank you in advance :. Learn the attitude of gratitude. They want more, like a 9 is absolutely awful or something, when the dude is lucky if he even scrapes being a 5. A better man does, so let her go so he can find her and treasure her. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this.
I feel this is an evolution thing and in the end we are all born to breed. We are an intelligent being but also can be very very simple and dumb. I have no idea the answer or the solution but I wish I could find it! My feelings are mix on this.
At the end of the day does he show you love? He may be glancing at other chicks but how is he with other areas of life. How about we just get divorced and then you can look at whoever you want, be with whoever you want and not have to feel guilty or apologize.
We will count this whole thing as a mistake we both made and the baby was the whole point of us being together and pretend it never happened. We will just be two ppl that get the baby on our turn and we will stay civil for him and you can look at all the girls you want.
I think he just wants a family…. Because he seems to look at them all so… why just pick one? Have as many as you want, be a parent, have your baby mamma out of the way. So instead of being selfish and trapping you in a relationship where your constantly having to wonder if your good enough for me.
Before there was any mention of dating I told him in detail that I cannot tolerate men who do this. This man told me he understood, agreed it was disrespectful and says he had no desire to even look at another woman. We start dating, have a nearly perfect relationship, never argue, great sex every night and then bam.
A year into it all of a sudden starts looking at naked women online. All the time!! Not tolerating it! We cannot help how this makes us feel but men can control whether or not their actions hurt us! I was a Bartender for many years. I talked to women for a living. Flirting means Tips! Heres what I learned. Women are insecure about their breast size and general appearance. If they catch you looking at another woman…………..
I dont care how great the sex is she is gone. Women are insanely jealous……….. If she catches you having sex with another woman…….
I need help…. But what if they know it hurts you, but they continue? Then when hes that insecure he thinks you will go off with another man, do exactly that. It is rude, disrespectful, demeaning and shows immaturity and an inability to control his own actions; behaviours learnt as a teenager and not overcome as a grown man.
There is absolutely no excuse for it and no man can defend the extent I am referring to of eyeing up women. If you go for a business meeting in a public place and an attractive woman passes, how unprofessional would it look if you stopped your conversation and turned your back in order to to eye her up and down…and interrupting the meeting by continually doing this when other attractive women come into view??
How distracting and ignorant is this? Even a lot of male work colleagues would not find it acceptable or amusing. I have been with my fiance for 5 years and plan on marriage next year i have lost alor of weight therefore i have issues with sagging skin and boob size lose. When i see him look at a woman that we drive by and she is backward facing us who has a nice butt or a lady walking through a parking lot who has a nice body and boobs and he looks 2 3 times.
This has gotten to the point where i dont like to go to public places because im even more self conscience about myself when he has to look at other woman because i will never have a body like that.
I could but will take thousands of dollars for surgery to get extra skin off and i dont have the money to do it. So is he looking because he is missing that in the relationship? Because i feel if he was happy with me and us he wouldnt do that. He has issues on himself being skinny and i dont look at all the buff guys that cross my path. The one who….. My issue is that what are these men thinking when looking.
Are they fantasizing about sexual content when looking. But some how they say they love and adore thier wives and never would go there. They love us yes but if they were aloud to be with other women and still keep the cook, cleaner and the Orphis they use while having sex with for friction all the while thier mind is on other women… I am over the lies men tell us and themselves that they are loyal… Maybe on body but not in mind.. Women are more emotional than men period. And no surprise vise versa.
But really, we are not at all complicated to understand at all. Until of course you try fitting us into your cookie cutter Prince Charming. Now what I do from that point on is different. Do I stare? Look away? But get this straight, Men can fk a sock because we do not need to love something to fk it. Meaning we can fall out of love when you stop being the girl we fell in love with, but still continue wanting sex.
Now we DO equate you having sex with us as you loving us. Because why else would you? We notice u stopped, in a world full of women who still put in effort. Anyway, probably put in effort to understand what your man really wants instead of jumping to bashing him about your own insecurities. F his brains out. This is just MY 33yo-married 4 years-opinion. But even with all of that my husband has had the problem of the wandering eye that goes beyond the first look that is, hurtful to me and an embarrassment, quite frankly to both of us.
He has matured to the point that he is realizing the what it actually is is an addiction, but in our increasing no responsibility Society that is not something a popular view right now.
He is now actually seeking counsel on how to control himself and not give in to the impulses. This from a man who has told me and his buddies I have so much sex at home I can handle it. So please for the love of God men stop throwing that out. Not saying it never happens but that is not always the case.
It bothers me when my husband looks at other women. I feel not good enough ect. What should I do? Men look because they have testosterone and it is in their nature. I love my GF with all my heart! But I still look. I let her look at attractive guys. Chaining your mate up is a great way to lose that person.
And being insecure and jealous is a great ingredient to ruin a relationship. Think of a relationship much like a job. If the job treats you bad or is unfair, you will start to look somewhere else better or just straight up leave. Relationships take a lot of work and understanding. I know my woman is going to look at hot guys. And she knows I look at hot girls. But she knows me well enough that I will not run to them. Hi Jess can I ask for your view on something? Ive found out my partner has been viewing content online, erotic revealimg bikini babes,etc.
I found this really hard to take and I think he does this fairly regularly. He said all guys do this even those in a relationship. Can you be honest and say if you think this is true? Thanks for your help. If a man or woman wants to look at others when with their partners, be single. SOME women are always in competition with other women im better, younger, better looking than her , and men know this and milk it.
Most of these men are not that hot do not kid yourself men but other women will try to get attention from a man who is attached this is insecurity on the flirtees part. I think it is socially sanctioned disrespectful behavior. It seems to be a consequence of the imbalance of power between the sexes that has existed since the onset of agriculture. Whenever one group is given power over another, abuse occurs. This conversation is NOT:.
So make him. But go in with realistic expectations here, Feeling Small. There are plenty of mature men out there who can control themselves. Maybe I can help. Or tweet at me with ToughLove! I do not have time to respond to everyone just for funsies. This phrase makes me think she is feeling like the other women are in competition with her. You used to be that young, and someday they may have the good fortune to grow old.
Losing this attitude is a big step towards overcoming jealousy; and when you stop being jealous you will be happier, more confident, and more attractive. The A. Girl Boy Other Not Sure. Add A Child. Something went wrong. Please contact support fatherly. Like fatherly on Facebook.
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